Drew T jackson

Coaching, Speaking & Training

Do you desire to achieve your dream?

I want to start by telling you about a building that’s going up across the street.  Nothing special about it, just a non-descript building but it got me to thinking about my days as a plumber.  Back in those days we would go out into fields and bury pipes, and then hope that our pipes came up through the foundation at the expected spot. I want to focus in on that word, expected, or expectation because that is the focus of my talk today.  When you’re building something, you don’t hope that it comes together, you expect it to come together. You have a reasonable expectation that your planning, and work will come together to finish the project, not a hope that it will.  When starting a project such as a building, a project planning, will ensure that everything is where it needs to be, when it needs to be there, and built to the plans that they’ve made.  This ensures their expectations are met when they proceed to the next step of the build.


Now how does expectation relate to dream Friday?  Well, this building across the street got me thinking about the difference between want and desire.  There’s a very subtle, but very real difference between these two mind sets, and it’s something that I have been thinking about often in my own journey.

The question I posed in the title of this post, “Do you want your dream or do you desire your dream?”, do you want to achieve your dreams, or do you desire to achieve your dreams? Do you see the subtle differences in those statements?

Think about the use of the word want. How often do we use it? We say we want a new car, or I ate a meal, but I was left wanting.  This indicates a state of lack.  We lack a new car, or we’re lacking food, because the meal wasn’t enough. It’s your inability to have that which it is that you want, and so when you simply use the word want, you’re expressing that you have lack of something.

But, if you look at desire, and the etymology of the word, you see demand and expectation. There’s that word again, expectation.  Question, do you have an expectation that you’re going to achieve your dream, or are you in a lack mindset?  Do you want your dream, or have you crossed into expecting your dream?  There is a difference. 

Let’s look at it in a different way.  Take my kids for example, my daughter wants her brother to throw her the ball.  She wants it, she is yelling, she has her arms out, and you can see and feel the frustration, because she is wanting something.  She is expressing her inability to get what she wants.

Now, let’s say that her brother is going to throw her the ball, and now she is expecting it. Her posture and form changes.  She has her hands out in a receiving position, and she is ready to catch the ball.  She has a desire to catch the ball, and she has an expectation to receive it. 

Now what does that have to do with your dream?  It has everything do with it, because if you are wanting, or expressing lack in your dreams, you won’t be able to tackle challenges when they arise to achieve your dream.  However, if you have an expectation of achievement, it will no longer be, if my dream comes true, it will be when my dream comes true.  It’s a subtle difference, but a difference all the same.  By switching from a lacking mentality to a desire mentality, it’ll make the difference in achieving your goals.  So, I’ll end with this, are you wanting, or are you desiring? Think it over, and see the difference it can make.