Free e-book · Emotional intelligence
People don’t experience your intentions. They experience you.
What’s It Like to Be on the Other Side of Me? is a short, practical guide to self-awareness for leaders. Ten chapters and four worksheets help you see the gap between what you meant and what people felt, and close it.
- Adjunct Professor of Business
- Organizational Development & Communications Director
- MBA, Organizational Development & Strategy
- John C. Maxwell Certified Coach & Trainer
- Author, The Executive Leader’s Handbook
Sound familiar?
Good intentions don’t always land the way we meant them.
You meant to be efficient. They experienced impatient. You meant to be direct. They heard harsh. Most leaders can explain what they meant. Fewer ask what it was like on the other side.
- A conversation went sideways and you’re still not sure why.
- Pressure brings out a version of you that you don’t love.
- Your team agrees in the meeting and does something else after.
- You want honest feedback, but people tell you what you want to hear.
Who it’s for
- Leaders and managers who want trust that holds up under pressure
- Professionals who want to communicate so people can hear them
- Anyone working on a relationship at work or at home
Not a personality test. The self-assessment is a reflection tool, not a diagnosis. The goal is one visible change people can notice.
“Drew has helped me master the most effective way of communication and influence… my improved method of speaking to others has been recognized by my colleagues and has ultimately resulted in my most recent promotion to partnership within my group.”
Dr. Melissa VillegasPhysician and Partner, Metropolitan Anesthesia Consultants
Why I wrote this
A note from Drew
Fort Worth, Texas
Dear friend,
I once sent a professional email to someone I remembered from high school. I had adapted a message I’d sent to my mother, and I didn’t reread the closing. Days later I discovered I had signed it “Love.”
We laugh about that one. Most communication misses are quieter. We give a detailed answer to someone who wanted the bottom line, or move fast when someone needed us to slow down.
People do not experience our intentions. They experience our words, our tone, and our reactions.
In my emotional intelligence workshops I ask three questions: Why do I do what I do? Who shows up when I’m under pressure? And what is it like to be on the other side of me? This book walks through all three.
That’s why I’m giving it away. Ask the question. Listen to the answer. Choose one behavior to change. You don’t have to become a different person. You do have to become more intentional.
Best regards,
Drew
The e-book
What’s inside
Three parts and ten short chapters. Each one ends with an “In practice” example and one thing to put to work.
Seeing yourself clearly
What it’s really like to be on the other side of you, why you do what you do, and who shows up under pressure.
Understanding the people around you
You don’t see what they see. Listen to understand, communicate the way people need to hear you, and read the room.
Becoming someone others want to follow
The power of the pause, hard conversations without broken relationships, and making your impact match your intentions.
Four worksheets
The Other Side of Me Self-Assessment, Five Questions to Ask Someone Who Knows You Well, a Difficult Conversation Planner, and a 30-Day Impact Plan.
All of it is free.
A quick win
Try this today: ask one question
From Chapter 5. When someone brings you a concern, find out what kind of help they want before you give it.
- Pause before you fix.Your first instinct may be to solve it. Hold that for a moment.
- Ask the question.“Do you want me to listen, help you solve this, or get involved directly?”
- Summarize before you respond.Say back what you heard and ask, “What did I miss?”
- Then help the way they asked.You’ll save time, and they’ll feel heard.
“Drew’s executive coaching has helped me strategically think through challenges and various communications I need to have in my role over operations. I have grown in my ability to empower my team and focus on items at the executive level.”
Christine WatsonEVP of Operations, Trinity Oaks Mortgage
Here’s everything you get, free
- The e-book: 10 short chapters in three parts
- An “In practice” example in every chapter
- A “Put it to work” action at the end of every chapter
- The Other Side of Me Self-Assessment
- Three more worksheets, including a 30-Day Impact Plan
Why give it away?
When I was a teenager, my family moved from California to Texas. The day we arrived, my aunt’s dog destroyed my new shoes. My cousin’s grandfather noticed I was discouraged and handed me $100 to buy another pair. I still remember it. My dream is to help you live yours, and giving this away is one small way I pass that kindness on.
My results
What clients say about working with me
“Drew has helped me master the most effective way of communication and influence… my improved method of speaking to others has been recognized by my colleagues and has ultimately resulted in my most recent promotion to partnership within my group.”
Dr. Melissa VillegasPhysician and Partner, Metropolitan Anesthesia Consultants“I can honestly say that he has been a significant part of my professional and personal growth. Drew offers a down-to-earth, but powerful approach to coaching.”
Michael WilsonFounder and Owner, Processology“I specifically loved how Drew tied his personal life experiences into the presentation. He was able to relate to multiple generations and really helped us think outside the box when it comes to bettering ourselves personally and professionally.”
Eric AllenEVP Head of Sales, Great Western Home LoansFrom clients I’ve served through consulting, training, and speaking.
Questions
Questions you might have
Is it really free?
Yes. There’s nothing to buy and no call to book. I’ll email you the PDF.
How long does it take?
Ten short chapters. Most people read one in a sitting. Each ends with one thing to put to work, and the four worksheets at the back take about fifteen minutes each.
Can I use it with my team?
Yes. The chapters and worksheets work well for a team discussion or a mentoring conversation. You’re welcome to share What’s It Like to Be on the Other Side of Me? unchanged, with credit.
Where do I start if I also want a written plan?
When you want what matters written down, start with the Strategic Life Plan.
What emails will I get?
First, an email with your download. The weekly post is optional. The box is checked when you sign up, and you can uncheck it or unsubscribe anytime.
P.S. If you do just one thing today, download the e-book and try the question from Chapter 5 in your next conversation. Notice what changes.